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Be Impeccable with Your Word: Healing the Spells We Speak

Every word you speak has the power to heal or to harm. And yet, most of the language you use wasn’t originally yours – it was handed down by family, peers, society, or built in response to pain and trauma. Whether shaped by childhood domestication (as Don Miguel Ruiz calls it) or adopted from the culture around you, your words reveal the beliefs you’ve internalized.

The invitation this week is to pause and ask:

• Are these words true for me now?
• Are they aligned with who I really am?
• Are they serving my healing and wholeness?
• Or are they reinforcing fear, shame, or separation?

A Course in Miracles has a powerful saying that always reminds me to be impeccable with my words; “Let words of love, healing and forgiveness replace all the foolish thoughts that were ever taught or experienced.” The words I decide to speak, to myself or anyone else can literally transform my mind and my experiences – from fear to love, from curse to blessing, from blame to forgiveness.

The Power of the Word

Don Miguel Ruiz teaches in The Four Agreements that the first and most important agreement is: Be impeccable with your word.

When we speak from fear, we cast spells – not just on others, but on ourselves. Ruiz refers to this as “black magic” the words spoken from judgment, manipulation, gossip, or control. These are the unconscious agreements we’ve made with fear and they keep us trapped in a world of separation and limitation.

But here’s the miracle: we can break those spells.

By speaking with love, we bring in the light of healing. A Course in Miracles teaches that healing is releasing ourselves from fear. When we speak from the heart, with kindness, compassion and truth – we realign with the power of love. That is the magic, we are all looking for.

“A whole spell is broken, just by the power of the word.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Start With the Self

You can’t offer authentic love outward if it’s not being practiced inward.

We must begin by listening to how we speak to ourselves:

• Are you kind to yourself?
• Do you offer yourself encouragement, forgiveness, appreciation?
• Or are your inner words laced with criticism, comparison and judgment?

The ego will often speak first – and loudest. The ego has been conditioned to respond with fear & judgement. But beneath the ego is the voice of the Soul – quiet, loving, forgiving and free. That voice is always present and it speaks in the language of love. Give yourself the gift of sitting in stillness and silence – listen (patiently) to this voice of love within to speak.

When we choose new words and thoughts rooted in love, we create healing for everyone we speak to – including ourselves.

This Week’s Intention

This week, we practice being more mindful and intentional with our words. Here are a few ideas to anchor your intention:

• Reflect on the source of the words you speak – are they fear-based or love-based?
• Replace gossip with compassion. Gossip is a powerful negative spell of black magic – it poisons everyone involved.
• Notice when your words are used to defend, control, or compare. Pause and ask: What is the fear beneath this?
• Speak to yourself with the same reverence, softness and respect you would to someone you dearly love.
• Make space for silence. Sometimes the most powerful word is the one not spoken.

Let your words guide you back to your truth this week. Choose to speak as the Soul would – with love, integrity and presence. That’s where healing begins.

And if you’d like support with your own healing journey, I offer private coaching that brings these principles to life.

You can reach me at 780-722-3442 or email leslie@wellnessdefined.ca.

With love and words that heal,
Leslie