Time to shed some light on our B.S.

It is time to talk B.S.

It is time to shed some light on our B.S.

This week we call out our “unaware ego’s” B.S.

We all know what B.S. stands for right?

Our Belief System!

If we are going to live our best life. If we are going to be able to view death as a teacher and “live like we are dying” then we must uncover the belief systems within us. We must uncover the B.S. that keeps us stuck and unable to create joy in our lives and find happiness within, regardless of what is unfolding outside of us in the world.

“A belief is just a thought that we keep thinking” ~ Abraham Hicks

Behavior and action follows belief. This is why bringing awareness to what we are thinking and believing is so crucial for creating the life we want.

1. If we are courageous enough to challenge our own opinions and beliefs, we have a chance to change our reality into what we want.
2. If we are courageous enough to take responsibility for what we are feeling we have a chance to change our reality.
3. If we are courageous enough to be honest with ourselves and take responsibility for what is NOT working in our lives, then we have a chance to change our reality.
4. If we are courageous enough to step out of our victim stories that are full of wounds, trauma’s, memories and limiting beliefs and stop blaming the outer world for what is wrong with us and instead go inward to listen to our own thoughts and beliefs and shine some light on our own feelings, behaviors and actions…then we have a chance to change our reality for the better.

If our behaviors and actions do not align with who we really want to be, then we can choose to behave differently and take different action. We need to desire change though and we need to take responsibility first by not judging ourselves and others and we need to stop hiding behind our victim stories, roles and beliefs.

 “Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies but we suffer because we believe all these lies.” – Don Miguel Ruiz

• Our thoughts create our beliefs
• Our thoughts and beliefs create feelings within us.
• These feelings are either going to be comfortable or uncomfortable
• How we feel will determine how we behave
• How we behave will determine what action we take or don’t take
• Action (or inaction) ultimately determines outcome, results and our reality

This week let’s be the observer of our thoughts. Let’s step back and detach from our thoughts, beliefs and feelings long enough that we can observe our behaviors, tendencies and actions.

Once our mind decides “I am not okay” then we will NOT be okay

Once our mind decides that “Only this will make me okay” Then that is the only thing that will allow us to be okay. We need to become aware of these mind traps.

We need to open our minds so that we can invite in the awareness and the change that will allow us  to create our best life

Awareness and intention is the key to opening our mind

Observing our beliefs without judging them will begin to unfold once we set an intention every day to be curious of our thoughts and beliefs.

When we are triggered by something or someone, when we find ourselves complaining about something or someone, when we find ourselves in a state of anxiety, worry or fear…

S.T.O.P

Stop

Take a couple of deep breaths

Observe your thoughts, feelings and your tendencies to behave and/or act

Proceed with this question…

Ask yourself… “Is this even mine?”

• Is this my anger?
• Is this my pain?
• Is this my sadness, my frustration, my story?
• Am I living someone else’s pain? Sadness? Story?
• Is this my belief?
• Is this my thought?
• Are these even my feelings?
• Are these even my behaviors?
• Are these even my actions?
• Were these handed down to me?
• Were these programmed into me?
• Was this developed from an experience I had – that I can’t let go of?
• Do I want to continue to act or behave in this way?
• Do I want to carry this anymore?
• Do I want to continue on this storyline? Whether it is mine or not?

Once we decide that we don’t want to carry the anger or the hurt or the hatred anymore, then we have the desire to change.

Once we are aware that we no longer want to carry the sadness or the story or the fear anymore, then we have the desire to change.

When we have the awareness and the desire to change – then the process of change begins to take place. Setting daily intentions (to do our best every day) to choose different beliefs, different thoughts, different feelings, different behaviors and different actions, is how we eventually change our mindset and our thoughts towards beliefs that actually work in our favor and create the reality we want. 

Over time, with patience and compassion for ourselves and this process we begin to discover an inner acceptance, an inner joy and from this space we can authentically create happiness within ourselves – even when our world around us seems to be in chaos.

We CAN experience this because we have purposely and consciously shifted our belief system. We have purposely and consciously began to change our belief system!

Most of the unconscious beliefs we have were developed when we were children, at a time when our brain was not developed enough to know whether these beliefs served us well or not. As we grew older we were most likely unaware of these beliefs that were formed when we were young, and so we acted on these beliefs unconsciously. Now as adults we get to shine some light on these beliefs, and we CAN change them, we CAN create new beliefs.

But only if we want to

With awareness, desire and intention we can change our belief system and our reality

“If your life is like a clock, your childhood is the first 10 minutes. Would you make the rest 50 minutes suffer because of the first 10 minutes?” ~ Marisa Peer

Hmmm…something to ponder

This week’s intention;

This week we question everything!!!

We question our thoughts, our beliefs, our opinions, our feelings, our emotions, our behaviors, our tendencies, and our actions.

Be curious.

Be very curious.

Today, I drop all judgement and I ask… “Is this even mine?”

Behavior follows belief and any belief can be changed with awareness, desire and intention. If you find yourself not wanting to change your beliefs – even though you are aware they are not serving you – then you may want to ask yourself what needs of yours are being met by keeping these beliefs… however, you may also want to ask yourself what is at stake if you don’t change them. (Your health, your relationships, your roles, your identity…)

When we shine light on our thoughts, our stories, our wounds, our trauma’s our limiting beliefs and our judgements, they begin to lose their power, their pain and their control over us.

When we shine light, we begin to invite in positive, healthy change.

If you are interested in any private coaching;

Contact me at 780 722-3442 or email me at leslie@wellnessdefined.ca

Namaste;

Leslie

Now…let’s tap this in…