Optimism vs Pessimism

Seeing Through the Eyes of Forgiveness and Optimism

Holding onto grievances block our natural ability to experience love, healing and essentially miracles. A grievance is a judgment we cling to – about someone else, a situation or even ourselves. It’s a lens of pain, guilt, blame and separation. Love, healing, forgiveness and miracles – all beautiful shifts in perception – can’t be seen through that lens.

Where Does Optimism Come In?

Optimism is the energetic attitude of a miracle-mindset. It’s the quiet belief that no matter how things appear, healing is possible or a solution is always just around the corner. It’s the openness to see things differently – which is exactly what forgiveness invites.

When you are willing to forgive, you’re not just saying “I’m willing to release this” you’re also saying, “I believe there’s something better beyond this pain.” Forgiveness is optimism in action – it’s believing in the possibility of love where hurt once lived and healing where sickness or injury once resided.

Pessimism: The Voice of the Grievance

On the other hand, pessimism is the voice that keeps grievances alive. It says:

• “People never change.”

• “This always happens to me.”

• “This can’t be fixed or healed.”

• “Forgiving won’t change what they did.”

• “I will never get over this.”

These thoughts reinforce pain, sickness and separation. They block the flow of miracles by insisting that the past is more powerful than the present moment.

Pessimism assumes the worst and demands evidence to prove it right. But miracles require something entirely different – a willingness to shift perception and choose to accept it differently.

Optimism and Forgiveness: A Healing Duo

Forgiveness clears the lens; optimism opens the heart. Together, they invite in miracles.

Holding a grievance is a choice to stay in the past.
Forgiveness is the willingness to move forward.
Optimism is the courage to believe that forward is better and absolutely possible.

Miracles are not rare events – they are the natural result of your decision to see with love instead of fear. And optimism is the quiet, steady faith that such love is possible, even when it feels hard.

From Grievance to Miracle: A Real Shift

One of my favorite affirmations that I embraced from A Course in Miracles is:

“I forgive all grievances and I welcome miracles in.”

When I say this, I am:

• Choosing to release what weighs me down and blocks my happiness.

• Making space for healing, insight and expected & unexpected goodness to come in.

• Affirming that I believe in love & acceptance more than in the illusion & confusion of hurt & fear.

Pessimists may say I am naïve – I disagree completely. I believe it’s a powerful statement of truth.
I’m consciously choosing peace and my own happiness with optimism. I’m willing to step into the unknown of healing rather than staying in the pain of what I’ve known.

Do You Lead with Openness or Protection?

Are you more naturally optimistic or pessimistic?

Do you tend to believe things will work out… Or do you brace for disappointment?

And when it comes to connection – do you find yourself opening your heart, sharing your thoughts and feelings freely? Or do you feel the need to protect, defend and guard your feelings from those even close to you?

We all have patterns – especially when it comes to trust, intimacy and hope. Some of us lead with vulnerability. Others lead with caution. Both offer insight.

Often, the heart hides behind old walls because of past hurts.
But what if optimism isn’t naïve?
What if it’s the quiet courage to believe in connection again,
in love again,
in healing… even when it feels risky?

Just something to feel into this week 🩵

Let This Be Our Guiding Thought Moving Forward

“With every grievance I release, I make room for miracles. I trust in the power of love & forgiveness. I choose to see things differently. I welcome peace, I welcome healing, I welcome joy. I welcome miracles.”